Grab onto whatever bits you tend to consider your “problem” and tell that flesh, out loud, that you love, cherish, respect and honor it, and let it know that it’s absolutely perfect just the way it is. The more you say it, the more you’ll believe it. Most women have a tendency to use negative language about their bodies. Simply changing the way you think and talk about your body can have a powerful impact on all aspects of your life.
2. Do Something That Scares You
It’s easy to fall into routines that turn into ruts, but trying new things literally triggers a happiness response in the brain. So do something you’ve always thought looked fun but never had the nerve to try. That spin class you’ve been talking about trying is a great place to start. Go skydiving. Travel. Learn a new language. Get your Scuba certificate. Endorphins are a powerful thing, and you can stimulate them right now for immediate gratification and long-term gain.
3. Chill Out
The simple act of letting yourself relax is a tremendous first step toward total satisfaction. While it’s easier said than done in a hyper-connected world full of stress, deadlines and an inflated sense of urgency about practically everything, once you’ve mastered the art of letting go, a whole new world opens up.
“If you can’t relax, having intercourse is going to suffer.” So every once in a while, turn off your phone and laptop, switch off the TV and lay your worries temporarily to the side. Make an appointment with yourself (or your partner) to do absolutely nothing for at least a solid hour — no agenda, no goals, no distractions — and see what happens.
4. Wear Something Sexy
Even if you’re just making cereal, watching reality TV or vacuuming the living room, wear something that makes your feel your best. Maybe it’s some sexy lingerie, a sultry summer dress or your favorite skinny jeans. Comfy clothes tend to give people permission to “let go” and start indulging. Ever notice that when you are wearing something sexy it changes your whole energy? Instead of getting home and getting into your comfortable clothes, light some candles and get comfortable with feeling sexy instead!